Can a 'Failed Transfer' be the Surrogate's Fault?
A: The word 'fault' is defined something like this in the Webster dictionary:
obsolete: LACK, WEAKNESS, FAILING; especially: a moral weakness less serious than a vice b: a physical or intellectual imperfection or impairment
a: MISDEMEANOR b: MISTAKE; responsibility for wrongdoing or failure <the accident was the driver's fault>
So, if you are asking if your surrogate made a mistake and the transfer failed then the answer might be yes. I say 'might be' because it depends on the mistake and why it was made. You have to remember that there are so many players in this game. Let's assume that you are asking if she made a mistake regarding her medications. If she followed the clinic/RE guidelines to a T and those directions were wrong, then the mistake lies with the clinic. If she misunderstood some directions and then 'guessed' instead of asking for clarification, then the surrogate was at fault for that aspect of the possible failure. But let's remember that we can also look at the quality of the eggs.... the sperm...the embryos that were made and the embryologist who graded them. How did the transfer go? Was the uterine lining the thickness that the RE required? I could go on...but I want to say that even if all is perfect the embryo transfer can still fail because there is nothing guaranteed in Assisted Reproductive Technology...Nothing! If you trust your surrogate and she did all that was humanly possible on her end, then you must move on to the next step and leave the disappointment of this failed transfer behind you!