Surrogate Spotlight: Callie’s Surrogacy Journey
Normally, I would start out talking about how I had two healthy babies for a family so deserving…. But this time it’s not about the parents and that moment I saw the tear of joy in the delivery room: it’s about me. But, wait, this isn’t actually about me either; and, yes, of course, I was pregnant and I went through all the steps in my surrogacy pregnancy with the parents of the two children that I carried for them. My story does not end with two healthy babies. It was a journey that I took with my family (my husband and two kids). While it’s easy to focus on the positives after the fact, the journey had many, many, ups and downs that we all experienced as a family. Surrogacy takes a village and I had mine.
So, I’d like to turn my spotlight on my village. I am not me without them and couldn’t have made it through without their support. My advice to many others thinking about surrogacy, or on that path of surrogacy, is that it takes a village. Whether that is one person or thousands of people, it’s your village. We are all human and we all need support.
Going through an agency for my surrogacy journey was smartest thing I did during my surrogacy journey. My case manager Jennifer was pretty much my main person who knew anything and everything; I would have been so lost without her. One phone call away meant, literally that, just one phone call away. She always knew the next steps and what I should be expecting. I could reach out at any point, day or night (and I did – because our worries and concerns don’t only come up during normal business hours!) and she was there – either with an answer or a promise that she’d find it out for me as soon as she could. Once I had the baby she didn’t peace out ether; she stuck we me after the journey was over, she even stuck with me working on some medical billing issues that didn’t get resolved until almost a year after the birth!
My family and friends were the other half of my village. There were points when I would call my husband many times in one day, crying and ready to just give up (it was not just like I could give up with two six pound babies!), and he would talk me through it and encourage me through the hard moments. That’s always what is was though, it was a hard moment and that’s it; they always passed and then I would think about the main purpose of why I was doing this. With any surrogacy journey you will have many hard moments, but, honestly, they are filled with a lot more joyful moments. Those moments made my journey, and I would not take back any of them.
The biggest advice I have, courtesy of my amazing co-worker and right-hand woman (who has been a surrogate herself many times and knows how it can be!), is to always stay positive! There is always a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s up to you to make that ride through it joyful and happy. Staying positive is sometimes the hardest thing we can do, but is so important.
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